So once again, we have lost a family member, my uncle on mom's side, her youngest brother. It was totally unexpected, even though he had been having some fairly serious medical issues; he had in fact just been released from another hospital stay only the evening before. He leaves behind 4 sons, 1 daughter, and 2 stepdaughters, many grandchildren, and lots of siblings, nieces, nephews and so on...He joins his wife of I think 20 yrs or so in Heaven.
My purpose is not to write his obituary. I give no names, as to keep the privacy as much as possible of the family as they mourn.
My purpose is to remember. And while so many of my memories are jumbled with each other, with everyday living, working, surviving, and existing ...I will never forget this big man with some rough edges who loved his family and did his best for them.
I remember being little and being scared--more likely overawed---by this giant of a man with the booming voice....at least he seemed that way to a little girl....He teased us all, just like we were his own.....as i got older, when I would be visiting my grandparents and he was around--and even well into the middle age I am now---"how ya doing, uglier-than-i-am?" As I got older, I would respond in kind: " No such thing." and tease him back.....as, no longer scared or overawed, I was comfortable with him....
He had his faults; we all do. He had his rougher times of living when he was younger. He was a Vet, God bless him. He was married and divorced twice before settling down with his third and last wife, who sadly preceded him in death a couple years ago. He had a passel of kids with his first 2 wives, and helped his last wife raise her young daughters to adulthood.
I'm gonna miss you, uncle dear......say hi to my aunt for us all...we truly miss you both. Rest in peace.
Sunday, October 14, 2012
Wednesday, August 15, 2012
tolerance and civil discourse
I've been playing around a lot on Twitter lately.....sometimes posting prolifically and sometimes just watching the tweets roll by. I've also been rather politically vocal on my Facebook page. And one thing I have noticed is the extreme lack of anyone really listening to anyone. Especially without the comeback of "Well, F you and the horse you rode in on." if someone dares to even politely disagree.
Yes, I am vocal and very blunt, to the point that yes I could probably be called rude on occasion. I call it like I see it and some may choose to see that as intolerant. Plain and simple, if I disagree, one of two things will happen....I will either shake my head and roll my eyes, but scroll on past the item and go on my merry way....or I may decide to comment. Most generally, I try not to be rude but approach in a agree to disagree manner.
However......if I am attacked, called rude vicious names, or the like....then I will fight back.....most generally with a cutting sarcastic remark that will probably go over the head of the one it is intended for---as I have discovered that such so not tend to pick up on sarcasm.
I respect anyone's opinion, whether I agree or not....and i require the same of anyone who posts comments on here---which is generally not a problem---on my FB page or anywhere else. if you feel the overwhelming need to show your command of vocabulary by dropping the F-bomb constantly, then please go to another page and do so. it will be deleted off mine.
Yes, I am vocal and very blunt, to the point that yes I could probably be called rude on occasion. I call it like I see it and some may choose to see that as intolerant. Plain and simple, if I disagree, one of two things will happen....I will either shake my head and roll my eyes, but scroll on past the item and go on my merry way....or I may decide to comment. Most generally, I try not to be rude but approach in a agree to disagree manner.
However......if I am attacked, called rude vicious names, or the like....then I will fight back.....most generally with a cutting sarcastic remark that will probably go over the head of the one it is intended for---as I have discovered that such so not tend to pick up on sarcasm.
I respect anyone's opinion, whether I agree or not....and i require the same of anyone who posts comments on here---which is generally not a problem---on my FB page or anywhere else. if you feel the overwhelming need to show your command of vocabulary by dropping the F-bomb constantly, then please go to another page and do so. it will be deleted off mine.
Sunday, July 08, 2012
Just want to scream some days
So I'm actually having a pretty good weekend off....relaxing, sewing, baking, and so on.....power's on and AC is cranking.....yeah we were one of the millions without power after the derecho 10 days ago.....
So after dinner and this evening's storms, hubby and I are enjoying sitting on the front porch swing watching the birds play, and I ran inside for a minute. When I came out, hubby is talking with son #2, who is on the computer. he walks outside and I look at son's posture and ask him what is wrong. Turns out his bio dad, my ex, who promised to buy him a laptop for college as a graduation gift, like he did his brother, is backing out. Says he can't afford it since he just paid son #1's tuition for his school......now bear in mind, this is the payment he made the contract with the university for, and had failed to pay from LAST semester, and had to pay before said son could register for next term.....actually son #1 was on final verge of losing his registration and housing for next term b/c of dad's failure to pay.
So he screws over son #2 and blames son #1 for it.....needless to say I am pissed to the gills. It takes every dollar I make to stay an inch away from foreclosure and shut-offs.....so for him, who makes twice the money my hubby and I together do, to plead lack of funds is just beyond me. He no longer has to pay child support, as son #2 just turned 18. He constantly plays games with the boys, and thinks they don;t see through it.
So our advice to the boys is to call his bluff-----he promised, he needs to ante up. Or at least come up with a more truthful excuse.
So after dinner and this evening's storms, hubby and I are enjoying sitting on the front porch swing watching the birds play, and I ran inside for a minute. When I came out, hubby is talking with son #2, who is on the computer. he walks outside and I look at son's posture and ask him what is wrong. Turns out his bio dad, my ex, who promised to buy him a laptop for college as a graduation gift, like he did his brother, is backing out. Says he can't afford it since he just paid son #1's tuition for his school......now bear in mind, this is the payment he made the contract with the university for, and had failed to pay from LAST semester, and had to pay before said son could register for next term.....actually son #1 was on final verge of losing his registration and housing for next term b/c of dad's failure to pay.
So he screws over son #2 and blames son #1 for it.....needless to say I am pissed to the gills. It takes every dollar I make to stay an inch away from foreclosure and shut-offs.....so for him, who makes twice the money my hubby and I together do, to plead lack of funds is just beyond me. He no longer has to pay child support, as son #2 just turned 18. He constantly plays games with the boys, and thinks they don;t see through it.
So our advice to the boys is to call his bluff-----he promised, he needs to ante up. Or at least come up with a more truthful excuse.
Sunday, June 10, 2012
So my daughter comes to me tonight after we eat dinner and she takes a bath and says with all seriousness that she needs to ask me a question. Her question? "How can you miss someone so much and not even remember knowing them?" So I pulled her over to me and gave her a hug and asked who she was missing. Turns out she is missing my Mommaw Adkins.....her great grandma..So I gave her another hug and cuddled her close and told her it was because she knew her, so she was a part of my daughter's memories...she just doesn't remember knowing her.....I know it sounds a little weird, but...
Shellie was 4 when my mommaw died at the age of 91, in her sleep. We lived in town then, but the house was being packed up in preparation for our move to our new house soon..We actually were only days away from closing on the property when my mom called about 1030 that Saturday night and told me mommaw was gone....It hit me like a knife in my heart, because as much as I loved my other mommaw, who had died in 1984, I was around mom's mom a lot more growing up, it seemed like...maybe it was just because of the 22 years between their deaths. And we were getting set to move within 5 minutes of her home.
I remember so much growing up around them....I remember--can still smell the smells of her cooking, how she knew what I liked to eat and made sure she kept it on hand. Even when us grandkids got to the stage of teenagers and might have been a little more difficult, she was always still Mommaw...always treated us the same, always loved us. I remember staying the night at her home growing up. Playing endless games of Aggravation--the board game, that is!!! I remember how loud the tv always was b/c Poppaw was hard of hearing.....and how hot that trailer was in the summer, although in winter it sure felt good. I remember good times with my cousins, who lived all around there...how we'd tramp the hills and ride bikes up and down the holler and run in and out of the doors of all the houses......
Then there were all the family reunions, still going on today, although not as strong as they once were. The last picture I remember being taken of Mommaw, in my collection anyway, is one of 4 generations of Adkins women.....Mommaw Rhoda, Mom, me, and my daughter.
I told Shellie to treasure her grandparents. To ask me and her dad and our folks about the family history. I wish so badly I had picked my granny's brain in the years prior to her death. So much oral history gone. This is why I continue to go to the reunions year after year. To hear the stories, not only of what has gone on in the months or years since seeing various relatives, but the stories of them growing up, and sometimes of us kids growing up...
Shellie says she feels her granny is her guardian angel. If she believes it, who am I to say any different?
I do know one thing---she picked a great lady to be her angel---I knew as soon as I had heard of her passing, that Jesus had welcomed another angel to His side.
Shellie was 4 when my mommaw died at the age of 91, in her sleep. We lived in town then, but the house was being packed up in preparation for our move to our new house soon..We actually were only days away from closing on the property when my mom called about 1030 that Saturday night and told me mommaw was gone....It hit me like a knife in my heart, because as much as I loved my other mommaw, who had died in 1984, I was around mom's mom a lot more growing up, it seemed like...maybe it was just because of the 22 years between their deaths. And we were getting set to move within 5 minutes of her home.
I remember so much growing up around them....I remember--can still smell the smells of her cooking, how she knew what I liked to eat and made sure she kept it on hand. Even when us grandkids got to the stage of teenagers and might have been a little more difficult, she was always still Mommaw...always treated us the same, always loved us. I remember staying the night at her home growing up. Playing endless games of Aggravation--the board game, that is!!! I remember how loud the tv always was b/c Poppaw was hard of hearing.....and how hot that trailer was in the summer, although in winter it sure felt good. I remember good times with my cousins, who lived all around there...how we'd tramp the hills and ride bikes up and down the holler and run in and out of the doors of all the houses......
Then there were all the family reunions, still going on today, although not as strong as they once were. The last picture I remember being taken of Mommaw, in my collection anyway, is one of 4 generations of Adkins women.....Mommaw Rhoda, Mom, me, and my daughter.
I told Shellie to treasure her grandparents. To ask me and her dad and our folks about the family history. I wish so badly I had picked my granny's brain in the years prior to her death. So much oral history gone. This is why I continue to go to the reunions year after year. To hear the stories, not only of what has gone on in the months or years since seeing various relatives, but the stories of them growing up, and sometimes of us kids growing up...
Shellie says she feels her granny is her guardian angel. If she believes it, who am I to say any different?
I do know one thing---she picked a great lady to be her angel---I knew as soon as I had heard of her passing, that Jesus had welcomed another angel to His side.
Friday, March 23, 2012
what a week...
On vacation this week...much needed. So have I gotten anything on my to-do list done...No....however we did take a couple days and went camping in the mountains. Definitely a needed getaway.
Then we come back home yesterday and it's back to it. Trying to get the laundry done and keep the house semi clean......plus trying not to lose my mind over the stupidity going on in the world.....
I mean seriously----you refuse to allow the Keystone pipeline to happen, to create many much needed jobs in this country--then you do a photo op at one end of it--the oil producing end, no less, and say you are fast tracking the pipeline? Did I miss something along the way? Or are you just moving your lips to the teleprompter again? Mr. President, you are a complete idiot.
And on a completely different subject--one of the top stories on yahoo!news is that Tom Cruise's daughter went to dinner with her mom in her pj's. Well, obviously the sense of what is right and wrong to go out in public in is not being taught to this young girl.......Mommy should have her head examined--of course I thought that when she married Cruise and got into the whole Christian science bunch of bullshit.News flash---Pj's in any form are not acceptable attire to go out in....go out to get the newspaper off your lawn maybe, or something out of the car possibly...but not to go out to dinner in, not to go shopping in, not to "be seen" in......and all the lazy idiots who show up at my store with their pj bottoms dragging the ground along with their houseshoes--also not appropriate footwear-----just had themselves and their stupidity validated b/c "a celebrity" did it.....
Then on a personal note, we have a daughter who has decided to act like a teenager at the age of 10....she has spent the week taking it personally when I have told her no.....now she is pouting b/c I got up to get ready for a lunch date with my oldest son's fiancee, and she demanded to go too. Again, told no, so she is now outside pouting....whatever.....
Now it is time to turn the laundry around and get ready to go.......
Then we come back home yesterday and it's back to it. Trying to get the laundry done and keep the house semi clean......plus trying not to lose my mind over the stupidity going on in the world.....
I mean seriously----you refuse to allow the Keystone pipeline to happen, to create many much needed jobs in this country--then you do a photo op at one end of it--the oil producing end, no less, and say you are fast tracking the pipeline? Did I miss something along the way? Or are you just moving your lips to the teleprompter again? Mr. President, you are a complete idiot.
And on a completely different subject--one of the top stories on yahoo!news is that Tom Cruise's daughter went to dinner with her mom in her pj's. Well, obviously the sense of what is right and wrong to go out in public in is not being taught to this young girl.......Mommy should have her head examined--of course I thought that when she married Cruise and got into the whole Christian science bunch of bullshit.News flash---Pj's in any form are not acceptable attire to go out in....go out to get the newspaper off your lawn maybe, or something out of the car possibly...but not to go out to dinner in, not to go shopping in, not to "be seen" in......and all the lazy idiots who show up at my store with their pj bottoms dragging the ground along with their houseshoes--also not appropriate footwear-----just had themselves and their stupidity validated b/c "a celebrity" did it.....
Then on a personal note, we have a daughter who has decided to act like a teenager at the age of 10....she has spent the week taking it personally when I have told her no.....now she is pouting b/c I got up to get ready for a lunch date with my oldest son's fiancee, and she demanded to go too. Again, told no, so she is now outside pouting....whatever.....
Now it is time to turn the laundry around and get ready to go.......
Tuesday, February 14, 2012
thoughts from my sickbed
So the last week or so I have felt like total dog poo.....sinus/upper respiratory infection, sever sore throat, the whole shebang....so for the most part I have avoided things that tend to raise my blood pressure, b/c I figure it's already raised enough with the decongestants I use just to breathe......
So I go to work today, and am home within the hour...just too sick to function.....take advil and go to bed, and now the brain functions a little better and I start to hear stuff...like brown bag lunches being confiscated for not being healthy enough for the lunch nazi's...yeah you can already tell which way I vote on this one...and the news just gets stupider from there.
Then I go online, and yep you guessed it, it gets even worse......and the stuff they call the news.....it is not news if Jenifer Aniston has a great set of ab's or not.....don;t care, don;t want to know, don;t want to see....God , no.....don;t care who's dating who or when, don;t care where the hot places to take a Valentine's date to are.....
Meaningless trifle.
So I go to work today, and am home within the hour...just too sick to function.....take advil and go to bed, and now the brain functions a little better and I start to hear stuff...like brown bag lunches being confiscated for not being healthy enough for the lunch nazi's...yeah you can already tell which way I vote on this one...and the news just gets stupider from there.
Then I go online, and yep you guessed it, it gets even worse......and the stuff they call the news.....it is not news if Jenifer Aniston has a great set of ab's or not.....don;t care, don;t want to know, don;t want to see....God , no.....don;t care who's dating who or when, don;t care where the hot places to take a Valentine's date to are.....
Meaningless trifle.
Tuesday, January 03, 2012
twisted up
I am too old for this crap. Truthfully, I am tired of being tired and sore and all that all the time.....now it is my left ankle. Again. I seem to have twisted it on a small patch of ice earlier today......at least it acted like a twist, but now I'm not so sure it's that simple...I don;t believe it is broken..I can walk on it, bend the foot and toes and flex the ankle. But the knives of pain shooting through it at odd intervals are driving me and those around me insane. It's a sudden stabbing pain, like several knives shoved into the ankle at the same point at the same time. Yee-ow. and there it goes again.
Sigh, this is going to be a long night.....
Along with the back spasms and the shoulder muscles on the right side....eventually I am going to end up at the doctor.....
Sigh, this is going to be a long night.....
Along with the back spasms and the shoulder muscles on the right side....eventually I am going to end up at the doctor.....
Monday, January 02, 2012
snow
Ok, I get it, it's January and oh my gosh, we just had our first snow of the season......since it is not even sticking to the roads, why the hell are people rushing for the grocery store? I guess I could see it if you live in a cave 50 miles from your nearest neighbor or something, but seriously? Most people are able to get out the next day, thanks to road crews and 4wheel drives.......or um maybe read the forecast a day or so ahead of time and plan ahead? As I sit here next to the fireplace and shake my head at the "oh my gosh it's a flurry we might all die of starvation before we can get out of the house again" group.......whatever.
And while we are on the topic of snow and people being idiots.....um, maybe you should slow down to the actual speed limit on the interstates when the roads are wet/possibly slick......ya think? Saves that nasty call to your insurance company to tell them you were stupid and they need to total your car, since you have done the majority of it already against the median cable barriers......
Some things I would like to see go bye bye this coming year...besides idiots, which unfortunately would probably solve the world's population problem in one fell swoop, but will never happen.......
1. Obama as president.......by voting him out in November...that would be a lovely Christmas 2012 present.
2. slutty clothes for preteen girls......I have one and it is damn near impossible to buy her clothes sometimes b/c everything wants to show boobs, belly or butt....or has a slutty saying on the shirt or the butt of the pants/shorts....my 10 yr old is not juicy or sexy and does not need to show off non existent cleavage...we'll discuss not showing off exisiting cleavage sooner than I want to, i am sure.....
3. commercials promoting our local public school system......my property taxes should not be paying for high tech commercials to advertise public schools, which a kid has to attend unless they go to private school or are homeschooled. Let's use the money from our taxes to oh I don;t know, maybe buy textbooks? Art supplies? Better, healthier, tastier food? Better teachers/administrators?
4.Commercials for lawyers/hospitals/sanitary pads/tampons/erectile dysfuntion......etc
5. Any show/sitcom that makes a certain gender/ethnic group, etc. out to be brainless.
6. Special rights for gays, blacks, hispanics, muslims, whatever.......no one is entitled to special protections for them and against others simply b/c they choose to live/worship a certain way.
7. And to go along with that, quit persecuting/trying to silence those of us who are straight/christian/white.
i'm so sure I have a lot more, but ......i'll let you ruminate on these for a while....
7.
And while we are on the topic of snow and people being idiots.....um, maybe you should slow down to the actual speed limit on the interstates when the roads are wet/possibly slick......ya think? Saves that nasty call to your insurance company to tell them you were stupid and they need to total your car, since you have done the majority of it already against the median cable barriers......
Some things I would like to see go bye bye this coming year...besides idiots, which unfortunately would probably solve the world's population problem in one fell swoop, but will never happen.......
1. Obama as president.......by voting him out in November...that would be a lovely Christmas 2012 present.
2. slutty clothes for preteen girls......I have one and it is damn near impossible to buy her clothes sometimes b/c everything wants to show boobs, belly or butt....or has a slutty saying on the shirt or the butt of the pants/shorts....my 10 yr old is not juicy or sexy and does not need to show off non existent cleavage...we'll discuss not showing off exisiting cleavage sooner than I want to, i am sure.....
3. commercials promoting our local public school system......my property taxes should not be paying for high tech commercials to advertise public schools, which a kid has to attend unless they go to private school or are homeschooled. Let's use the money from our taxes to oh I don;t know, maybe buy textbooks? Art supplies? Better, healthier, tastier food? Better teachers/administrators?
4.Commercials for lawyers/hospitals/sanitary pads/tampons/erectile dysfuntion......etc
5. Any show/sitcom that makes a certain gender/ethnic group, etc. out to be brainless.
6. Special rights for gays, blacks, hispanics, muslims, whatever.......no one is entitled to special protections for them and against others simply b/c they choose to live/worship a certain way.
7. And to go along with that, quit persecuting/trying to silence those of us who are straight/christian/white.
i'm so sure I have a lot more, but ......i'll let you ruminate on these for a while....
7.
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