the Miley lesson

Posting a link to a beautifully done blog
http://roadkillgoldfish.com/2013/08/26/dear-daughter-let-miley-cyrus-be-a-lesson-to-you/

Beautifully done because you can see the love for the writer's daughter shining through...and the determination to not have her turn out like so many spoiled brats do these days....

Now I will be the first to admit my lovely 11 yr old daughter is probably just a touch spoiled. She has things and gets privileges I never dreamed of at her age--even if they had been invented yet!!!! But she is firmly grounded in love and support and security from me and her father...and brothers and sisters and extended family members. For the most part, she has a good group of friends as well....even with the middle school drama that goes on....

Shellie was the biggest Hannah Montana fan I had ever seen. And we played into it, b/c the show was a wholesome breath of fresh air, a silly break from the rest of the crapola Disney thinks is entertainment. and we loved the way daddy kept Hannah/Miley's feet firmly on the ground...Well Miley grew up, shed the Hannah persona and act, and went to hell in a handbasket faster than you can say Britney Spears....

You know, her first Miley album wasn;t bad.....but when the one came out with her pic on the cover where she looked like she just crawled out of some guy's bed after a weekend orgy....that did it for me. Shellie wanted the album, liked the music.....I put my foot down right there in the middle of Walmart, told the child precisely why she was not getting it..and it all had to do with image...the image on that CD cover was not one I wanted my child to get a message from.  She threw a mini-tantrum, which I quickly put down...and we';ve had similar tiffs over other pop artists she likes.....but my word is the be all and end all....I can;t control every single thing she is exposed to, but I can control what I allow her to bring into my home. I ban MTV happily. With shows from Jackass to 16 and pregnant to teen mom, not the station my child, or most people with a brain, should be watching.

I firmly believe a big part of my job as a parent is to guide her away from the decisions that will ruin her life. I can;t stop what she may do at 18, but you know, I was told my sons would cut and run as far as they could get from me and my rules and high standards and expectations once they turned 18 also....well they left for college, 3-4 hrs away from home...and I am sure they are trying out their new roles as legal adults responsible for themselves...but they still come home....they still have respect for the way they were raised...and I have no fears that my daughter will be the same....