Tuesday, October 03, 2006

School violence summit...????

The blurb across the top of my computer screen says Bush is organizing a school violence summit. Huh? Ok, I think that it's ridiculous that people ar carrying guns into schools and killing people, mostly for no good reason. But....why a summit? is it that it is election time and a reaction is needed to show the people we care and are concerned? Or do the powers that be really think that talking about it is going to change it?
When I was in high school (class of 1985), school violence was a fistfight in the hallway, usually over a girl. Granted I graduated from a small rural high school (100 graduates in my class), but we watched the news---very rarely was there mention of the kind of school violence we see now. Did it exist or is it a new phenomenon? What kind of accountibility do we hold the parents of these teen killers to? And the school administrators? Should they be held to a standard of accountibility for the actions of their children/students?
I have children in high school and middle school now. After Columbine, my cousin was terrified to go to school because at our local high school, there was a supposed hit list circulating. The school was quick to clamp down at the time. But I do worry about my kids when they board the school bus in the morning, and I worry about them until they walk in the front door after school. Because I don't know if one of their classmates will snap. I don't know if that student's parents are lax in leaving their guns around. I don't know if that student will sneak a knife or whatever into the school setting and maybe my kid is caught in the crossfire.
I try not to let the worry rule my life, but it is there under the surface. I hold my kids accountable for their actions, but do other parents? I control, yes censor, what my kids read and watch on tv and the music they listen to. That's my job as a parent. So we don't allow things like cd's by Slayer and like groups to be brought into my home. We don't allow MTV to be watched in our home--and CMT is regulated. Even though my stepkids may be allowed to watch certain movies or shows at their mom's home, and they can get ticked off when I don;t allow it here, that's ok. Because some things are not suitable for kids (and some things aren't even suitable for adults), and it's my job to filter those out until such a time as they are old enough to handle it. Which means they are old enough to logically and rationally discuss the issues involved, and are old enough to distinguish fact from fiction, right from wrong, etc.
I also don;t allow them to run around with play guns, or act like they are killing people. I don't allow personal attacks on another, such as "you suck". They are taught to respect others, and although sometimes I wonder how well the lesson is sinking in, all 5 do fairly well at it, and are horrified at those who don't.
School violence summit? Hmmmmm.....how about just following the lessons learned at home--or that should be taught at home---like if it ain't yours don't touch it. Or do unto others as you would have done unto you. Make a mess, clean it up. If you make a mistake, apologize and learn from it. Take responsibility for your actions and quit blaming everyone else in sight for your screw-up.
Hmmmmm......

2 comments:

tanstaafl said...

Aaargghhh! You got it all wrong!!! Bush is calling a summit IN SUPPORT OF SCHOOL VIOLENCE!!!

WE GONNA NUKE DE PRINCIPAL CAUSE HE AINT GOT NONE!!!

tanstaafl said...

Oh, just drink it ,Ralph, while you are checking out PERFECT IT AINT!